Stop Depriving Your Kids

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Hey parents — here’s a newsflash…this just in:

Giving your kids sodas, candy, cakes, and cookies on a regular basis is deprivation alright. It’s depriving them of A HEALTHY, STRONG, VIBRANT FUTURE.
Withholding those things is only depriving your kids of future doctor appointments, clinic waiting rooms, dealing with bags full of prescription meds, obesity, diabetes, and host of other major problems that will affect them forever.

I posted this video on the Simply Human facebook page back on August 14 because I thought it was extremely powerful. Take 90 seconds and watch it real quick if you haven’t already.

Through the eyes of a young heart attack patient, the video shows you how he ended up on the operating table at such an early age.

And the video isn’t some science fiction or political propaganda. The video is absolutely, 100% dead on (pun intended).

We live in a culture today which hands out soda after sporting events — suckers after gymnastics — random candy at school for no good reason. It’s everywhere. It’s the norm.

And parents can be made to feel guilty or weird if they say, “thanks but no thanks” to the sweet, little old lady handing out peppermints at the mall.

Donuts, cake, cookies, soda, juice, chocolate — they’re all the norm in our society.

So you know what else has become normal? Heart attacks. Obesity. Diabetes. And many other diseases of degeneration. Is that so unbelievable?

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people say, “oh you’re too strict! let them have some candy” or “it’s just one cookie, don’t be such a jerk, you’re depriving them!” Or things along those lines.

Let me stop here and say that my kids get cake at birthday parties or parties at school. I let them eat the little sucker the gymnastics place we go to hands out after they finish (they get it AFTER they eat dinner). I don’t run up like Batman and knock the candy away from them in slow motion if anyone hands them candy. I’m not THAT guy.

But I’m also not the guy that will allow that stuff to be around all the time. When that stuff is around all the time — so are other bad things in the future. If “treats” and candy are sporadic, so would be all the diseases I mentioned earlier.

Our culture has changed the definition of normal or moderate or “every once in a while.” We need to do some serious work to get those words back to their original meaning.

How can we do that?

“We” needs to become “me” to begin with. Our culture won’t change unless YOU change. Unless I change.

Keeping that stuff out of your house and out of the norm is not eliminating happiness from you or your child’s life. Where did that notion even come from?

We lasted a heck of a long time without all that garbage and were happy.

HAPPINESS DID NOT APPEAR WITH THE INVENTION OF SUGARY, PROCESSED FOODS.

Let me say that again, happiness has been around for as long as humans have. Garbage food has not. So don’t give me the “my kids aren’t going to be happy” line because I don’t buy it. It’s a lie.

Tying happiness to the ability to say “yummy” is incredibly dangerous for the future of our children — and for YOU.

Happiness should be tied to relationships and self-fulfillment and giving to others and contentedness. Not sugar. Seems a little ridiculous when you think of it like that.

In many families I’ve worked with, it’s not even the kids who are driving the demand of non-human food in the home, it’s the parents. Parents know that they can’t be eating pizza and demanding that their kids eat broccoli. So what’s the alternative? Well, everybody just gets pizza and ice cream and hamburgers every night because mom and dad want it. That’s not fair to your kids.

You also don’t need candy to reward kids and get them to do stuff like poop in the toilet or do what you say. It’s very effective, but so is the Warm and Fuzzy Jar. It’s a mason jar decorated by the child that gets filled with super cheap cotton balls anytime the child does something you ask without throwing a fit — or being polite — or putting their dishes in the sink — or whatever. Then when the jar is filled up, they get an experience: a movie, a trip to the park, a date with mom or dad. It doesn’t HAVE to be food.

That culture MUST change.

Start by eliminating non-human food from your home. Then talk to your kids about food and special treats. My girls know that when they get the sucker after gymnastics to just hang on to it until after dinner. They know that because we had a conversation with them about it and they’re smart, capable little human beings.

Teach them about smart decisions. And that human food will make them big and strong. Show them that mom and dad don’t eat those things because mom and dad want to be healthy and strong. Your kids think you’re Superman. Model healthy human behavior for them and they’ll follow suit (unless your kids are teenagers and they are in the “mom and dad are the stupidest people on earth” phase).

We don’t have a swimming pool. So our kids don’t whine and complain every night about not getting to swim in our backyard — because there’s no pool back there. See where I’m going with this?

So get it of your house. Model healthy behavior for your kids. Teach them about what it means to be healthy — and don’t deprive your children of a happy, vibrant, strong future.

Don’t let your child end up like the kid in the video. Find other ways to reward and treat and enjoy.

Don’t wait until next week or until you eat all the garbage you already have in your possession. Life’s too short. Start changing right now. And if enough individuals change…WE will change.

Paleo Lifestyle and Fitness Podcast, Episode 106

Podcast PicSarah and I are back with Episode 106 of the Paleo Lifestyle and Fitness Podcast!  Click here to listen or find us on iTunes. Please submit your questions to paleopodcast@gmail.com and if you have a spare minute, please be sure to leave us a review on iTunes!!  Thank you very much and enjoy!

John Fragoso plays the role of Sarah today!  Here’s what we discuss in this episode:

  • How to choose a local gym/trainer.  (10:10)
  • Running for stress relief.  (23:40)
  • Cortisol.  (35:10)
  • Sunglasses and sun screen.  (38:26)

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What makes me whole…

There are so many pieces of me and as I get older I’m learning to honor every single part of who I am because that is what really makes me whole. I used to fight it, ignore it, or try to be just that ONE single part of myself - the best part of myself, but that just made me angry, bitter, tired, and not all that much fun to hang out with. I wanted to be the best mommy, wife, cookbook author, and strength coach on the planet but those are just a few pieces of my own personal puzzle and by only focusing on those things that I perceive are the parts that make me good, whole, or right, I took away so many other parts of who I am – parts that allow my better parts to shine. I have to be ALL of me, all the time. Not just the shiny parts of me that I think or thought rather, that everyone should always see. After 37 years on this planet and probably more life experience than I asked for when I came out of my mom’s womb, today I need to be in touch with everything that makes me – ME – and by doing that, I have become a much happier person. I want to share with you now more pieces of me – more of who I am – in hopes that you will drag out the dusty, dirty, maybe not so shiny pieces of who YOU are and not necessarily act on all of those pieces but HONOR them, and be good to them, and remember them. It really makes life way more fun. So here goes, here’s some pieces of me that for years I neglected until lately I have said hello again in a healthy way and I’m feeling whole again.

Sometimes when I’m alone (rarely) in my car and a song comes on that makes me feel 20 again I sing like crazy at the top of my lungs and that’s a piece of me, a piece of me that wants to run wild still, get more tattoos, stay out late, drink too much, and dance all night, even though my dancing is really really awful… Having three kids somehow made me start to ignore that 20 year old urge – and yet I remember clearly being in my car with a load of girlfriends and singing (yelling) my favorite Korn song from the window, the whole car shaking while we raged and drove. It was such an awesome feeling. So free. So crazy. So fun. Somewhere along the way I stopped singing at the top of my lungs in the car as often and found myself listening to AM radio, or Dr. Laura. (What’s WRONG with me???) So now, when I get that urge, I FREAKING SING!!! When the kids are in the car with me WE sing – like mad people, like crazy people, and we laugh and I don’t need to go out and get more tattoos or drink too much because just honoring this one piece of me and letting go for a few stupid minutes feels so darn good.

I love to wear high heels and tight outfits and fix my hair and put on makeup. I love it. My reality? I own a gym. I wear gym clothes every. single. day. I put my hair in a ponytail. I wear minimalist shoes. Every. Single. Day. My makeup routine takes me sub five minutes. When I go out with my husband in our little town where no one really ever dresses up all that much unless you’re in college and you go to the bars and you wear little tiny dresses that would never really work on my body that lifts weights, I dress up. I wear heals. I wear makeup. I wear tight clothes. I fix my gosh darn hair and I pretend for that one night that it’s just he and I and that I’m still just as groovy (yes I’m old) as the hot college girls in my town and it feels so darn good! So when I wake up the next morning and put on my gym clothes and my 5 minute makeup and my minimalist shoes theres still a vixen inside somewhere that my husband also can see because I let her out now and then and I don’t keep her wrapped up in a sports bra and t-shirt ALL of the time. It’s good for both of us and makes us forget that we’ve been married a really really really long time. (13 years this September!)

I like to not be perfect, or even close to perfect, it feels good to own  up to my mistakes and I make a LOT of mistakes. Now, instead of ignoring my mistakes, or blaming other people (like my husband), or getting irritable at the kids like somehow my bad mood is THEIR fault. I decide to embrace my mistakes and look for the lesson in each one. I say “I love you” and “I’m sorry” a lot more now than “whatever” or “oh forget it” or even worse, saying nothing at all and walking around like my heads going to pop off. Now I instead focus on the fact that my mistakes make me better when I admit that I’m wrong and that makes me way less unpopular in my house and way more fun.

I have so many more pieces of who I am – and I’m working on saying hello again to all those pieces and goodbye to trying to be the perfect at everything that I thought I was supposed to be perfect at. That’s no fun. I’m not ever going to be perfect at everything and the harder I tried to be the worse I became at being a really bad-ass wife, mother, sister and friend (which is all more important than anything else in my life). So this is my call to you to join me in exploring all of YOU. Who are YOU. How do YOU work. What pieces of YOU have you ignored, neglected, and shoved elsewhere in the attempt to be GREAT at life? Go find those pieces and put yourself back together again. Join me in embracing the entirety of your awesomeness, warts and all, and say “I love you” more and “I’m sorry” when you need to and most of all, find joy again in the imperfections and drag out your high heels and silly songs – you’ll thank me for it.

 

Enjoy Popcorn — without all the POISON

Like many of you out there. My family and I don’t live in a forest or on a mountain. We live in the real world and are surrounded by lots of “non-human” things. You know, stuff like: chairs, electrically heated water, electrical anything, cars, shoes, and movies.

So if I were to ask you what food came to mind when I said “movie”, you would probably say popcorn, right?

And what’s the most convenient, cleanest way to get popcorn into your belly? Yes! The Microwave.

Let’s take a look at why microwaveable popcorn may not be the best thing for your human bodies:

  • Plastic — when you heat up the petrochemicals in plastic, other harmful chemicals are absorbed into your food. Many microwave popcorns have plastic liners. No good.
  • Synthetic Fats — manufacturers of non-human food LOVE these fats because they allow foods to sit on a shelf for generations without spoiling. Don’t believe any health claims on the package saying there aren’t any trans fats. Look at the LABEL. If you see any oils listed other than olive or coconut, it is most likely a vegetable or hydrogenated oil. Avoid those. They are literally poisonous.
  • Genetically Modified Organisms — or GMOs. Yes, the undisputed champion of non-human foods. And one of the big three GMOs? Corn. They’re not good people. Do I need science to back that up? No. There IS science to back that up — but why don’t we just leave it at “humans are not designed to eat foods that have been altered in a lab to ensure they are resistant to poison and yield as much crop per acre as possible.”
  • Flavorings — many of today’s processed foods taste and smell great because of synthetic flavors and scents that are forced upon them. Real, human food tastes great and smells amazing on its own. You don’t need fake taste and smell. But they work. And one of the chemicals that smells like butter is called diacetyl and it’s been linked to lung disease. That’s just one. There are many others. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that chemical smells and flavors are non-human foods and will have a negative reaction in the body.
  • PFCs — or perfluorochemicals. This is another great invention that many fast food manufacturers use. And what do you know, it’s been linked to cancer and reproductive system damage. It’s also been linked to thyroid disease and ADHD. Once it’s in your system, it stays there for  LONG TIME.

So what do you do if you really like popcorn and want to have some popcorn while you watch a movie with your significant other or your kids…or by yourself?

When it’s movie night, we make the following recipe.

Yummy Buttery Popcorn

Ingredients

  • 1/2 cup organic popping kernels
  • 2 tbsp grass fed butter
  • sea salt to taste
  • 2 tbsp coconut or MCT oil

Instructions

  1. heat up oil in a 3 quart pan on high heat
  2. put two kernels in the pan, make sure they get coated with oil, and put the lid on the pan
  3. when one of those kernels pops, dump in the corn
  4. gently rock the pan until all kernels are popped (make sure lid is on)
  5. take off heat when popping begins to slow (they pop really fast) and dump into a big bowl
  6. melt 2 tbsp butter in small sauce pan and pour over the popcorn
  7. top with sea salt

So there you go. This popcorn is absolutely incredible tasting. It smell amazing. Clean up is easy. Making it is easy. It only has four ingredients. And zero, count ‘em, ZERO of the aforementioned negative things normally found in microwave popcorn.

Try it out. And leave the synthetic, fake, poisonous foods for the rats.

Oregon Book Signing and Cooking Demo Tour Coming Soon to a Natural Grocers Near You!!

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natural grocers logo I’m beyond thrilled to have partnered up with Natural Grocers by Vitamin Cottage to visit five stores throughout the state of Oregon for cooking demos/ book signings!!!! I’ll be kicking off my Oregon tour the week of September 22nd and I can’t WAIT to meet you there, cook for you, and of course, sign your books! You’ll even be able to taste the food that I make during the demo and I’ll be cooking a menu straight out of my new book, Everyday Paleo Thai Cuisine!! epthai-new Below is the list of stores I will be visiting. Each cooking demo will begin at 5:30 pm and after each demo I’ll sign books and chat with all of you and of course answer any questions you may have. No  need to register for this event, just show up and enjoy! September 22nd: Clackamas September 23rd: Salem September 24th: Eugene (This is a brand new store opening on the 23rd – just a day before my visit, so come see me and check out the new store in your area!!) September 25th: Corvallis September 26th: Medford

Science Doesn’t Always Know Best

In the 1600s, little was known about how the human body worked or reproduced. They DID know that sperm and egg met together and somehow a human being was produced from that.

Some people hypothesized that there were super teeny tiny little human bodies in the heads of each sperm that eventually just got bigger and became babies. These super teeny tiny little humans were called homunculus. Not a bad theory if you have no idea what’s going on at the cellular level. This theory was called “preformation”.

Then something interesting happened. When some of the early microscopists studying this subject (who just happened to be “preformationists”) looked at the sex cells under the microscope for the first time, you know what they reported seeing?

Yup. Teeny tiny little humans…to confirm their theory. But are there teeny tiny little humans inside of sperm or egg? Of course not.

Did scientists see what they WANTED to see to support a theory? You betcha. And that hasn’t changed some 400 years later.

Another story — penicillin was discovered in 1928 but wasn’t widely used until right after World War II. It was made synthetically in the late 50s. And boy, has it done some great stuff. With penicillin in our arsenal, humans stopped dying from strep, staph infections, pneumonia and other bacterial infections.

It was the miracle drug and was made in a lab by people in lab coats. Awesome. I have benefitted from penicillin. My kids are safer with it in the world.

But just because penicillin, which is made in a lab by people with lab coats, is an incredibly powerful thing that has changed the world and solved problems — doesn’t mean that EVERYTHING MADE IN A LAB BY PEOPLE IN LAB COATS is going to solve all of our problems.

Unfortunately, that’s where the conventional wisdom went after penicillin. You have a problem? Great, ole Lab Coat here will find something to fix it. (I am not saying anything negative about anyone who wears a lab coat for a living — just the idea that all the world’s problems can be fixed by chemical means).

Along came margarine and hydrogenated oils and GMOs and processed foods and food coloring and preservatives and pharmaceuticals. And it’s pretty easy to see what’s happened to our health.

Not getting enough exercise? No worries. We can fix that. Don’t want to eat healthy foods? We have a fix for that, too. Can’t sleep at night? Here, take this. Joint pain? Try two of these on an empty stomach and call me in the morning.

We’ve got it all wrong.

We have eradicated infectious diseases but have replaced those diseases with ones of degeneration and sickness. In an epoch that should be known as the time all humans were at their absolute healthiest — we are at our sickest.

Here’s a newsflash: science and chemicals can’t fix everything. Science hasn’t figured it all out. But guess what? We don’t need to understand something to have it work for us.

I guarantee you many babies have been produced by men and women who had absolutely no idea as to how pregnancy works at the cellular level. They just did what their instincts told them to do and viola! A baby!

Some things are unexplainable. There are medical miracles. The human body is an amazing thing that adapts to its surroundings and strives to live. Sometimes fallopian tubes that are surgically cut grow new vessels and find their way back to each other to continue the life process (ever had a friend get their tubes tied and then get pregnant?)

Some animals can regrow fully developed body parts. The placebo effect is still largely mysterious.

So let’s wrap back around and learn something from those two stories:

A) don’t believe everything you read in the latest “scientific studies” because science is prone to see what it wants to see…and science has gotten away from what science really is: change in light of new discoveries and data. It’s kind of gotten stuck on some stuff thanks to politics and money and public opinion and the media.

B) are you going to do things and eat things that have been around for 60 years or are you going to do things and eat things that have been around for the entirety of human existence?

If I was going to be stranded on a desert island and could have one thing with me, I’m going to choose the wheel over an iPhone, the knife over a spiralizer, a bow and arrow over a microphone. See where I’m going with this?

Here’s a quiz: What practice has been around the longest and is more robust?

Walking or Elliptical trainers?

Herbs or Pills?

Animal fat or Margarine?

Going to bed when the sun goes down or staying up until 2 AM watching TV?

Science has done GREAT THINGS! My son is alive today because of breakthroughs in science and medicine. But lets keep the penicillin and reattachment surgeries in the “anomaly” category but in our normal, everyday lives keep doing things that humans have done ever since humans have been around.

We’ll all be better off for it.

To follow more of Mark’s amazing work, visit his blog, Simply Human Lifestyle, listen to his Podcastand be sure to follow him on Facebook!

Paleo Lifestyle and Fitness Podcast, Episode 102

Podcast PicSarah and I are back with Episode 102 of the Paleo Lifestyle and Fitness Podcast!

Click here to listen or find us on iTunes. Please submit your questions to paleopodcast@gmail.com and if you have a spare minute, please be sure to leave us a review on iTunes!!  Thank you very much and enjoy!

 

 

Today we are joined by Nina Teicholz, author of The Big Fat Surprise.  I can honestly say that Nina’s book is one of the most important books of our time.  You can find more of Nina on her website here, on Facebook here, and on Twitter here.

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