* Here’s another great post by Jason Seib!
Sorry for the silence on my part lately. EPLifeFit is booming and keeping me quite busy. Excuses, excuses…
I often preach the merits of proper perspective (here, for example) and today I just want to give you a quick example of what can happen if your head is in the right place. I would like you to meet Laura. When Laura first came to me she was an avid runner, tried to “eat right”, and hadn’t ever really spent any time lifting weights. All in all, she was very much the average person to walk through our door – her head was full of common exercise and nutrition myths and she was unhappy.
Yes, Laura seemed to be the typical client in the typical state of health and fitness, but she is the exception to the rule in one important way: she is not driven by aesthetic goals. I first realized her true potential when she came to me and requested personal training. She had been attending our group classes for a while, made some good progress, and now wanted to get on a faster track to her goals. I asked her what she expected to get out of personal training and started to half way check out of the conversation because this is the part where most people start pointing at various parts of their bodies and pinching their chubby spots to emphasize their disgust with themselves. (Frankly, it always makes me want to scream, “You can’t fix a body you hate!” but I usually refrain in the hopes that they will see the light over time.) Laura’s reply: “I want to deadlift 300 lbs.”
What did she just say?? I went over the sentence in my head trying to figure out where she had hidden the words “fat”, “butt”, and “thighs”. Did she really just tell me that she wanted to accomplish a massive feat of physical capacity, even though she was not yet built like a super model?? This woman gets it! Count me in!
Where did her pursuits take her? Heavy lifting and proper paleo nutrition got her a body that looks like this…
And it happened by accident. The fact that she looks great was a nice little added bonus. Laura constantly improves her physical appearance by focusing on her health and physical capacity, and she effortlessly maintains her gains in a world where yo-yo dieting is a household phrase that is actually defined on Wikipedia (but you don’t have to look it up because everyone already knows what it means).
Here is the moral of Laura’s story. If you came to me with Laura’s perspective and asked me if I thought you were capable of dramatic change for the better, my answer would be a definitive Yes! In fact, I would be anxious and excited to watch those magical changes happen right before our eyes, and absolutely confident that we would both end up better people for the experience. But if you came to me in the typical self-loathing fashion of many people, I could only tell you that I am confident in the accuracy of my map to where you want to go. I could by no means guarantee that you wouldn’t erect insurmountable obstacles in your own path.
It really is all up to you.
More on this subject coming soon.
Go forth and be awesome.